Background:

I used to be head over heels in love with ex-GF. We met in high school and were together for almost 4 years. I thought she was the love of my life, that we’d get married, have kids, the whole shebang. Then her career took off. She got moody, was easily stressed and we argued a lot. One day she sat me down to tell me it was over between us. No buts. No trying to fix anything. Needless to say I was heartbroken, and after pleading with her to reconsider, I ultimately had to accept that she had already checked out and we were over.

It took a while but I got over her. I finished college, got a great job, move away from the town we’d both grown up in and spread my wings, so to speak. I met my fiance shortly after, she’s beautiful, smart, funny, and I adore the very ground she walks on. We got married last spring and I couldn’t be happier.

The Issue:

Recently, ex-GF has been calling me non stop trying to apologize for how she broke it off way back when, wanting to reminisce about the past and asking if we can meet up. I haven’t actually talked to her because I’ve let the calls go to voicemail. All of them. And there a lot, maybe a thousand. It’s driving me absolutely insane, especially since she’s calling using a private number so I can’t block her calls.

I loved her once, but that part of my life is over. I’m not sure how I feel about meeting up to hash out the past, I might be better off never looking back. In any case I need the phone calls to stop.

I need advice on what to say to her and what to do. Should I meet up with her? It might give her some closure which she (suddenly?) seems to need. On the other hand, I am happy with my wife/life now and don’t want to dig up old memories that might jeopardize that. Also, she hurt me pretty bad when she left and I am admittedly a little gleeful that she gets to see what that feels like, especially since she seemed so distant and cold at the time.

What should I do?

 

EDIT: She has put her misery into song.